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perpetually late to the party ([personal profile] nanslice) wrote2021-11-28 12:48 pm
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Got some extremely tragic and scary news a couple of days ago. My sister got in touch with my niece and me a couple of days ago and told us that my mom hasn't been doing well for the past couple of weeks. She ALSO sprang on us that my mom went to the doctor a little over a year ago and they found a MASS in her ABDOMEN. It was during the hardest days of covid so my sister wasn't allowed in the room with her but my mom apparently,,,didn't share with her any of the details that the doctor told her???? Just that it was a mass, they recommended surgery, my mom declined because "then they'll want chemo and I'm not doing that" which...I don't know if the doctor confirmed that it was cancer or if that was my mom's assumption???

Anyway, my sister told us all this (ON FACEBOOK MESSENGER) and then was like "But don't worry, I'm not worried, she just hasn't been feeling well so I wanted to give you guys a heads up" which, if she's not worried, why would she need to give us a "heads up" anyway? Like. I think Mom is dismissing this to keep people from worrying and my sister is eating it up for some reason, and I'm like omg this is fucking stupid.

ALSO I'M NOT SUPPOSED TO KNOW ANY OF THIS so I can't just be like "So hey Mom, about that MASS THAT'S BEEN LIVING IN YOU FOR OVER A YEAR." Like???? So anyway, I'm at a complete loss as to what to do, what actions I should be taking, anything.



In other news, I've been playing Shin Megami Tensei V, which has been super great. It's also slow going because I'm very out of practice playing a proper RPG but it's been fun!

I've also picked Genshin back up since the current event is about my boy Albedo! I love hiiiiim.
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[personal profile] goss 2021-11-28 10:00 pm (UTC)(link)
they recommended surgery, my mom declined because "then they'll want chemo and I'm not doing that"

Sorry to hear that - scary indeed!

And just to let you know - with my dad, he got the cancer mass (the whole kidney) removed effectively so that chemo has not been necessary as a follow-up treatment.
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[personal profile] sarajayechan 2021-11-28 10:29 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh jeez! That's terrifying. :( I'm so sorry.
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[personal profile] nimueth 2021-11-28 11:38 pm (UTC)(link)
That is really scary! Hopefully it's a benign mass. Not that that would make the situation any less frustrating, and surgery is scary regardless, but I really hope all this turns out to be as small a deal as possible. Best wishes!
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[personal profile] riventhorn 2021-11-29 12:11 am (UTC)(link)
That's so hard; I'm sorry. My mom is very sick, and it's really difficult to get medical news second hand or know that she is sometimes keeping the full extent of how she's really feeling from me, so i sympathize with your situation. Would you be able to speak to her doctor directly?
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[personal profile] houtarouh 2021-11-29 12:47 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear that. :(
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[personal profile] cye_of_the_torrent 2021-11-29 03:05 am (UTC)(link)
D: *hugs if you want them*
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[personal profile] yuuago 2021-11-29 03:27 am (UTC)(link)
Bloody hell, that's rough.

Unfortunately, I don't have any advice. Good luck with handling this.
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[personal profile] hokuton_punch 2021-11-29 05:03 am (UTC)(link)
Oh, no, that is highly scary news. D: Fingers crossed for you and your mom.
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[personal profile] helvetica 2021-11-29 04:17 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear about your mom :( I hope that she is able to be more open about it soon, maybe talking it over with the family will help her to commit to the treatment she needs. I hope that she's OK.
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[personal profile] zippitgood 2021-11-29 04:59 pm (UTC)(link)
Yikes! That's something to drop over Messenger. I hope things turn out to be less scary than they sound right now.

[personal profile] cloudwrack 2021-11-29 08:13 pm (UTC)(link)
I’m so sorry - that sort of news is always scary/overwhelming, and hearing it over Messenger must have been a shock.
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[personal profile] merit 2021-11-30 10:36 am (UTC)(link)
I've been in a situation where a parent refused to go the doctor and it isn't very fun at all :/ best wishes navigating this.
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[personal profile] adafrog 2021-12-01 02:05 am (UTC)(link)
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[personal profile] lassarina 2021-12-02 03:09 pm (UTC)(link)
*hugs hugs hugs*