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[nanslice]

Thank you very much to everyone who commented on the previous post. I'm going through periods of being okay to being completely devastated. But I know that everything happened the way he wanted; he passed away at home and my mom and I were right by his side. He didn't go through any of the pain the hospital guaranteed he would go through and he was never strung out on drugs.

Mom and I have started the pretty arduous process of going through his stuff and getting the house set up for our new normal. We also went to the shelter and got two kittens, because a death in the family is definitely a good time to get new pets, right? Yeah. Probably not the best idea but they've brought some laughter and also annoyance (CATS) to the house and that's pretty important.

We're doing okay. We've been able to laugh about some of the things Dad used to do and also predict what his reactions would have be to new stuff ("I ain't been gone a week and y'all are already filling the house up with damn cats!"). I'm sad, of course; a kind of bone deep, empty kind of sad, and I think Mom and I are clinging to each other pretty tightly right now. But I'm still able to laugh. I'm able to think about him without crying. I'm able to remember the good times, of which there have been many. I'm not living in despair.

It's going to be okay.

Comments

[novel_machinist]

<3 I'm glad to hear from you. I'm sure your father wants you to remember him that way.

[st_aurafina]

Oh, kitties - that's really great. I'm glad you've got two little creatures to help you through this. (I don't think there's a right or wrong way to do grief, so don't let people tell you that was a bad idea. If it helps, it's a good thing.)


*hugs for you all, including the two kitties*

[cye_of_the_torrent]

Getting two cats sounds like a good idea to me. *hugs, if you want them*

[ldybastet]

*hugs* Cats are wonderful creatures and can give some distractions. I'm so sorry for your loss. :(

[ashkitty]

I missed the last post somehow, I'm so sorry for you and your mom. I think the kittens are probably a good idea, and am thinking of you both. <3

[lassarina]

Kitties are wonderful comforts.

♥

[cephy]

*more hugs* I'm very glad he didn't suffer, and that you're coping as best you can.

[helvetica]

Aw that's so sweet that you guys got some cats! It's great that you and your mom have each other and so happy that you guys are finding some happiness. He wouldn't have wanted you to be sad <3 lots of love!