more medical stuff

[nanslice]

My dad's condition is deteriorating, to the point that I need to help him bathe. I try very hard to remain positive in front of him and not seem upset but it's difficult to see my dad, who has always been so physically powerful, now be so weakened and vulnerable. However, while he has moments despair and shame, overall he's still in good spirits. And he enjoys food and being disappointed at how badly the Atlanta Braves are doing this year.

One way to put a positive spin on this, if such a thing exists, is that it's very likely he'll pass away before the bone cancer has a chance to put him through much pain. And it's horrible to think this but death is inevitable, suffering shouldn't be.

I ended up taking my mom back the doctor on Tuesday because she's been constipated for about a week and none of the laxatives I've gotten for her have helped. They prescribed a laxative that seems to be helping slowly. They suggested a colonoscopy just to rule out colon cancer and I was like jfc are you kidding me, can we please catch a break here? They didn't seem too concerned about that possibility, it was more of a just in case due to Mom's age, but GOD FUCKING DAMN IT.

I'm going to make a more pleasant post later on this evening but I wanted to get this more serious stuff out.

Comments

[cypher]

death is inevitable, suffering shouldn't be

This is so important. Both my remaining grandparents passed last year, and in neither case was it quick or surprising, and just. Having someone linger, hurting, when there's clearly nothing to be done about the problem is the worst. I hope your dad goes with as little suffering as possible.

And I hope it turns out nothing too serious is happening with your mom, eesh. ;;;

[nanslice]

Yes, I think that...if he'd had a quick death, you know, it would be over with, he wouldn't be suffering, and I could move on. Instead it's like the world has stopped and we're waiting for this terrible thing to happen, and grief is just sitting on my shoulders.

Thank you. We've already had a discussion about what will happen if it is a worse case scenario but she doesn't seem concerned and the doctor didn't seem concerned. Me, on the other hand, I've already cried about it a couple of times, ha. ;;;

[houtarouh]

I'm going to offer you a nice big hug. :(

*hugs* ♥

[nanslice]

Thank you. ;3;

[lassarina]

Good Lord, things just keep piling on, don't they?

death is inevitable, suffering shouldn't be this. this this this, yes, this.

*hugs* I hope your mom's issue is just a fluke. Your parents are so lucky to have you to help them.

[nanslice]

Yes, I would really appreciate the universe just settling down in terms of Things Happening in my neck of the woods.

Thank you. *hugs*

[st_aurafina]

Oh, man, sending you more hugs. *hugs*

[nanslice]

Thank you. *hugs*

[cye_of_the_torrent]

:( *hugs* I hope the health issue with your mom does turn out to just be a minor thing.

[nanslice]

*hugs* I hope so as well.

[scribblemoose]

Always good to get tested to be sure, but I'd suspect your mom's condition is 99% more likely to be stress related. Hope it gets resolved soon.

And yes, so understand about suffering re death. *hugs*

[nanslice]

That's what I'm thinking as well. I'm also having tummy troubles (not to the extend that she's having them though) and all the research I've looked up leads to stress as well. She's not having abdominal pain, there's no blood or anything so.

[cephy]

*hug*

[nanslice]

Thank you. ;3;

[novel_machinist]

It's NOT horrible to think that. It really isn't. People deserve a dignity in death and suffering is not required.

I hope your mother's doing better.

[nanslice]

She's doing better!

Thank you. *hugs*

[genarti]

Aw, hell. You guys deserve a break so badly, all of you.

Death is inevitable, suffering shouldn't be. Yes. Absolutely.

[nanslice]

Maybe one day. I know all of this will pass, it's just getting to that point. ;;;

[tropicsbear]

You're handling things much better than I would be. And I don't think that it's horrible to think that at least your dad won't suffer too much.

[nanslice]

I'm trying, anyway! Sometimes I feel like I'm failing left and right but I'm really trying hard to keep everything together.

Thank you. ;3;

[redsixwing]

>>And he enjoys food and being disappointed at how badly the Atlanta Braves are doing this year.

That's good. Any bit of enjoyment is worth something, especially in a situation like yours (plural).

I don't think that's horrible at all. Hang in there.

+1 to the love for "Death is inevitable, suffering shouldn't be."

[nanslice]

Thank you. ;3;