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May. 19th, 2016 08:16 pmMy sister got in touch with a local cancer support group so that's good. The head of it is one of her grooming clients so that's incredibly handy, haha. I ended up having a chat with her and got very emotional; her mother died of cancer and she was a cancer survivor, so she had a lot of experience and had a lot to share with me. Some of it was helpful, some of it was terrifying. But probably still helpful.
My boss told me that we needed to set up a living will. This is a terrifying discussion. I brought it up to my mom and she does not want to bring it up to my dad. I can understand, of course, but. I think it's something that needs to be discussed.
My dad and I shook hands today and he was able to grasp my hand pretty firmly. This is a victory. He also got up from his wheelchair and was able to get in his recliner with minimal help. This is a huge victory.
I told my dad that there was no place I'd rather be than by his side and he started to cry. I managed to keep a straight face and a non-wavering voice when I hugged him and told him that I loved him and that he was one of my favorite people in the world so where else would I rather be than right by his side? And he told me I was his favorite kid. Of course, once I got him situated and left the room I started to cry. But! I didn't cry in front of him.
Kiddo (my great niece) is coming over this weekend. She knows some of what's going on but not all. On one hand, I'm glad she'll be here since she needs to spend time with him. He helped raise her! On the other hand, I wonder if, at 15, she'll be able to handle this. I don't want her crying in front of him. They need to be able to have a good time together.
My mom cried a little today but one of her friends called and they had a nice chat. I think it was helpful for her. I'm going to insist that she take advantage of the cancer support group. She needs to be able to get her emotions out.
My boss told me that we needed to set up a living will. This is a terrifying discussion. I brought it up to my mom and she does not want to bring it up to my dad. I can understand, of course, but. I think it's something that needs to be discussed.
My dad and I shook hands today and he was able to grasp my hand pretty firmly. This is a victory. He also got up from his wheelchair and was able to get in his recliner with minimal help. This is a huge victory.
I told my dad that there was no place I'd rather be than by his side and he started to cry. I managed to keep a straight face and a non-wavering voice when I hugged him and told him that I loved him and that he was one of my favorite people in the world so where else would I rather be than right by his side? And he told me I was his favorite kid. Of course, once I got him situated and left the room I started to cry. But! I didn't cry in front of him.
Kiddo (my great niece) is coming over this weekend. She knows some of what's going on but not all. On one hand, I'm glad she'll be here since she needs to spend time with him. He helped raise her! On the other hand, I wonder if, at 15, she'll be able to handle this. I don't want her crying in front of him. They need to be able to have a good time together.
My mom cried a little today but one of her friends called and they had a nice chat. I think it was helpful for her. I'm going to insist that she take advantage of the cancer support group. She needs to be able to get her emotions out.
