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Jul. 16th, 2020 10:40 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
nansliceSo I was going to post this on Reddit but when I read it back, I pictured how I would respond to someone else if they'd posted this and realized that no, I am not the asshole. But! I went through the work of writing it so I may as well post it somewhere! XD
"Hi, Reddit! So I (f/34) moved to Seattle, WA in February to live with my bf (nb/40) and their roommate, just in time for Covid to really sink its teeth into the US. I basically moved with no savings at all and my bf was like that's fine, that's fine. I managed to get a part-time job as a dog walker and I really enjoy it but it certainly doesn't allow me to pay rent or really help out very much with groceries or things like that (altho I do try to buy things here and there with any extra I have). It's a safe job because I don't interact with people and it's mostly outside.
To make up for my lack of financial assistance, I clean. Basically if something gets cleaned, I'm the one who does it. I certainly don't mind, it's the least I can do! I also tend to do the more physical laborious things around the house when needed, like digging gardens/moving furniture/whatever.
There is a program offered here that helps people get into trade jobs and I'm planning on doing it for cement masonry. However you have to take classes for about 12 weeks and I would be out of a job for that amount of time and would also be in close contact with other people. The classes start at the end of August. The next time I would be able to sign up is in January.
My boyfriend has already assured me that if I'm not comfortable taking the classes in August, there's no problem at all to wait until January. And I know I should just believe them because they would be honest with me but also I feel guilty for being a leech. ;; Also it's difficult for me to just accept that people are okay with me not doing everything possible to be helpful (which is a mental health story for another time!).
So, tell me, Reddit. Would I be the asshole for waiting until January to take the tradesmen classes?"
"Hi, Reddit! So I (f/34) moved to Seattle, WA in February to live with my bf (nb/40) and their roommate, just in time for Covid to really sink its teeth into the US. I basically moved with no savings at all and my bf was like that's fine, that's fine. I managed to get a part-time job as a dog walker and I really enjoy it but it certainly doesn't allow me to pay rent or really help out very much with groceries or things like that (altho I do try to buy things here and there with any extra I have). It's a safe job because I don't interact with people and it's mostly outside.
To make up for my lack of financial assistance, I clean. Basically if something gets cleaned, I'm the one who does it. I certainly don't mind, it's the least I can do! I also tend to do the more physical laborious things around the house when needed, like digging gardens/moving furniture/whatever.
There is a program offered here that helps people get into trade jobs and I'm planning on doing it for cement masonry. However you have to take classes for about 12 weeks and I would be out of a job for that amount of time and would also be in close contact with other people. The classes start at the end of August. The next time I would be able to sign up is in January.
My boyfriend has already assured me that if I'm not comfortable taking the classes in August, there's no problem at all to wait until January. And I know I should just believe them because they would be honest with me but also I feel guilty for being a leech. ;; Also it's difficult for me to just accept that people are okay with me not doing everything possible to be helpful (which is a mental health story for another time!).
So, tell me, Reddit. Would I be the asshole for waiting until January to take the tradesmen classes?"
